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HEALING
HOMOSEXUALITY

The
number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies
is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered,
constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with
respect, compassion, and sensitivity.
Every
sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided.
These persons are called to fulfill Gods will in their lives
and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lords
Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.
Homosexual persons are called to chastity. By their virtues of self-mastery
that teach them inner freedom, at times by the support of disinterested
friendship, by prayer and sacramental grace, they can and should
gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection (The Catechism
of the Catholic Church, 2358-2359).
People
with homosexual attitudes must be treated with love and compassion,
the more so since in most cases they have acquired these attitudes
through the negative influence of their social environment. Rather
than blame them, we must try to imagine how deeply wounded they
are, both spiritually and sychologically. Total cure of homosexuality
may well require therapeutic counseling (see suggested reading material
below) but ultimately it is Gods love that makes such a cure
possible. Only Divine Love is able to deliver people from their
loneliness and sorrow, to make them aware that they are loved at
all times and unconditionally. Homosexual persons must redirect
their attention away from their sexuality to the love of Jesus Christ.
To
fully receive this healing love, people suffering from homosexual
desires must forgive all those who, by their deeds, attitudes and
evil influence, have contributed to their disorder. They must offer
their anger and sorrow to God in prayer, and ask for the grace of
bestowing forgiveness. This unconditional forgiveness is the necessary
condition to opening ones heart fully to the Divine gift of
healing. This must be accompanied by intensive prayer and frequent
reception of the Sacraments of Reconciliation and Holy Communion.
The
return to chastity is a long and arduous journey marked by frequent
and painful failure. Patience is of paramount importance throughout
this stormy period. In time, as the spiritual and emotional wounds
heal, the homosexual desires will become less severe, and, in many
cases, may disappear altogether.
For
Christ there are no situations without solutions. There are no people
too sinful, too impure, or too wounded to be healed. Those prone
to homosexual behavior stand every chance of being healed, provided
that they have complete trust in Christ and follow these steps:
***They
will accept the teaching of the Church on homosexuality, and make
an effort to live in chastity.
***They
will devote their entire lives to Christ through daily prayer, meditation,
recitation of the rosary, the reading of Holy Scripture, and frequent
reception of the Sacraments of Penance and Holy Communion.
***They
will make a clean break with everything that may incite the sin
of homosexual behavior. It is especially important to get rid of
homosexual materials such as books, videos, and to sever all ties
with the homosexual milieu. This includes avoiding bars, public
baths, etc.
***They
will do all they can to spend time with heterosexual men and women.
Joining a parish prayer group or self-help groups under the auspices
of organizations like Courage may be a good solution. The sense
of solidarity that one derives from belonging to such a group is
of tremendous help in warding off temptations against chastity.
The
healing of homosexual tendencies is possible only when a true spiritual
conversion takes place. It requires total trust in Christ and a
willing effort to walk with Him through life. This spiritual renewal
will not occur immediately, nor will full personal maturity be quickly
restored. To regain full control of ones life requires time,
and this time will certainly be difficult. In the meantime, intensive
prayer and trust in Jesus will help one to overcome strong homosexual
temptations. Jesus will heal our wounded emotions only if we agree,
in obedience and trust, to abide by His life-affirming principles.
If
we lose faith in the healing power of Jesus, we fall prey to the
propaganda of homosexual groups who claim that homosexuality is
an inborn tendency and a natural, alternative expression
of human sexuality.
It
is in the saving Cross of Jesus observes Pope John Paul II
"in the gift of the Holy Spirit, in the Sacraments,
which flow forth from the pierced side of the Redeemer (Jn 19:34),
that believers find the grace and the strength always to keep Gods
holy law, even amid the gravest of hardships" (Veritatis Splendor
103).
M.P.
Suggested
Rading:

Letter
to the Bishops of the Catholic Church on the Pastoral Care of Homosexual
Persons, Vatican Congregation for the Doctrine of Faith, 1986; see
also The Homosexual Person: New Thinking in Pastoral Care, by Fr.
John Harvey, OSFS, Ignatius Press, San Francisco; Healing Homosexuality:
Case Stories of Reparative Therapy and Reparative Therapy of Male
Homosexuality: A New Clinical Approach by Dr. Joseph Nicolosi. The
latter two books may be purchased by phoning 1-800-782-0015 or by
writing to Regeneration Books, P.O. Box 9830, Baltimore, MD 21284.
Readers may also wish to contact Courage, an organization directed
by Father Harvey to support those who suffer from homosexual temptations.
Not to be confused with the dissident homosexual group Dignity,
Father Harveys movement and its sister organizations Courage-Anon
and EnCourage are approved by the Church and are growing steadily
throughout North America and abroad. For more information write
to: Courage, c/o St Michaels Rectory, 424 West 34th Street,
New York, NY 10001, USA or telephone: (212) 421-0426. Write also
to the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality
(NARTH) 16542 Ventura Blvd., Suite 416, Encino, CA 91436, tel. (818)
789-4440. Dr. J. Nicolosi, Director of the Thomas Aquinas Clinic
and Executive Director of NARTH, also provides counseling over the
telephone.
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